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You’re not getting a car, your getting on my nerves.

on September 8, 2018

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You remember the year Oprah gave everyone in the studio a car for Christmas. She waved her arm around the audience, pointing at random people, yelling, “You’re getting a car and you’re getting a car and you’re …”

For a couple of months now, I’ve driven to work, gotten out of my car, and as I walk toward the entrance, I’ve felt heaviness in my chest. (And no, it’s not my arrhythmia)

I dread work.

Not the patients,

Not being a nurse.

It’s the company I keep.

I want to wave my arm around, pointing to certain coworkers, and holler, “You’re a problem and you’re a problem and you’re…”

You get it.

Here’s the thing with transparency, some of it has a negative impact. When I hear peers say “I gotta look out for me, gotta take care of me first” and “This is just a job, I’ll quit if they expect me to do that,” I get discouraged. Yes, they are being honest, but come on — my favorite is “I’m leaving at the end of my shift; I don’t care how many patients are coming out.”


I feel very alone.

I understand healthy boundaries and the importance of self-care. I guess I should have some appreciation that a peer feels comfortable telling me exactly how she feels, but what if we all get that way? What happens when everyone wants to do the minimum? If I share with them the impact of their comments to me, am I not in a way doing the same, making it about me, not the patients.

It might be time to look for a new tribe of nurses to work with. It’s a drastic step, but one that needs to be considered at this point.


15 responses to “You’re not getting a car, your getting on my nerves.

  1. DM says:

    this sort of stuff is an energy sucker.. This post took me back to the mid 1990’s…I experienced similar feelings on a job for similar reasons. took me months and months to finally leave (because I loved the work/ it was just some of my peers that were the problem) Keep us posted! DM

  2. It do3snt get worse in a job than to have assholes in that same job. Especially bare minimalists.
    Hope things get better.

  3. Ellen Hawley says:

    Signs of an overstretched system?

    • Susan says:

      Eh, my hospital is a smaller division within the system ( 8 OR suites versus 14, less required on call days). I think it might be a matter of something like spoiled kids that usually get what they want…they keep wanting more perks.

  4. Jim says:

    aw sweetie, don’t feel alone. these are trying days for all of us and there is a tremendous amount of negative energy going around. focus on what you do best. you’re a great nurse and that’s all that matters. 🙂

  5. Emdagny says:

    You are a great nurse. I am glad that you are getting insights from so many.

  6. joey says:

    I do not like when people at work say things like, “They don’t pay me to do that…” To me, that’s so limiting. One should do what needs to be done.
    You’re right, self-care and boundaries are important, but so is doing the right thing and I would think in nursing that’s especially true.
    Chin up and all that, I hope you get some positive juju comin at ya 🙂

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